Counseling Corner

Career Counseling

Guilford Country promotes career awareness beginning in kindergarten.

This semester we will explore personality types and traits along with career considerations.

 

Small Group Counseling

For parents responding to small group counseling in areas of 

Divorce

Death

Absent Parent

Anger Management

Extreme Shyness

We will begin meeting the week of January 22 for 4-6 weeks.

 

Home Tips and Tools for Students with Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity

A timer is your best friend to give a physical reminder of time and completion.

For those who respond to positivity over criticism (most of us), either a chart noting successful completion or simply a verbal praise, - "You got ready to leave when I said it's time to stop playing, and I'm proud of your listening ears that paid attention!" reinforces the child's correct choice. 

Examples of positive productive reinforcing statements.

"You are getting better each day at paying attention."

"You choose to focus and listen when I speak to you. Congratulations" 

"Be proud of yourself that your ears and your brain are working together to become a very good listener."

"You have amazing focus at things you love to do.  You are learning to apply that focus to things that are less fun.  I'm proud of you for that."

"I like the way you repeat after me what needs to happen so I know you know:

   Example: 

"I will work ( 3-5-10) minutes on homework until buzzer goes off and then take a ___ minute stretch break."

" When you give me a 2 minute warning it is time to stop, and the final warning it is time to stop, I will prepare to stop."

 

Do not reinforce intentional procrastination  with repeated warnings or reminders. This helps children learn they do not have to respond the first-2nd-3rd... time.

It teaches them that you are responsible for their things and removes them from responsibility.

Natural consequences of missing a meal, missing an activity, missing homework completion,  going to school without the snack in the bag... teaches something real life teaches us every day!- that there are natural consequences when we do not plan, or pay attention, complete, or ignore information given to us.

A.D.D children (and adults) can have very active and creative minds, with a successful ability to multitask and meet deadlines.  We do not want them thinking this label gives them permission to wiggle out of expectations.    Children are brilliant thinkers!    They want to do what they want to do.  They learn very quickly what to say to get their way.    I know that from personal experience with my first born son! Do not let a child commandeer a situation.  It is so easy to give in because they wear us out and we are exhausted by the conflict and resulting temper tantrums.    Keep your cool and hold strong to expectations of completed homework (with a timer) and other tasks at home.  With consistency, your child will know you mean what you say.   

When we say one thing, but do another, that is a loudspeaker to a child's thinking that your words do not mean what they say. It actually trains a child not to listen.

The biggest challenge in the universe?   Being a parent!